You’re on a first date, sat in at an intimate, candlelit bar. A short cocktail, garnished with maraschino cherries, is in your left hand. You’re right hand rests on the knee of the person opposite as your eyes meet. Slowly, and smoothly, they ask, “do you vote Green, or Reform?”

It’s a scenario that few people would want to be in. But it might be becoming more common – and even necessary – thanks to the rise in political catfishing across the UK. 

Aptly named after individuals who misrepresent their political views to their partner, the action builds a relationship on the foundations of dishonesty and mistrust. That is, if the romance lasts long enough to turn into a partnership – with many seemingly opting to lie about their political values just to, well, “get lucky.”

A 2025 study proved the importance of political alignment in relationships when 42 per cent of people in the UK said that their romantic partners political views are a deal breaker. Even more telling is the 50 per cent of under 35s that agreed that clashing politics would be enought to drop their date.

The current political climate is, no matter where your values lie, chaotic. It’s easy to understand, therefore, why political catfishing is so prevalent in a country so divided by such difficult discussions. 

Now revisit your date from the beginning. Let’s pretend that your Hinge profile said you were seeking ‘nothing serious’ – you’re just after a good time. Is, or even should, the talk of politics be on the table?

I’m not so sure.

If that’s not your style, and you’re looking for a longterm committment, it’s critically important that political opinions are shared and understood from the beginning. This should be done, frankly, in the early stages of the relationship in order to prevent potential discomfort later down the line. Let’s be honest feelings frequently cloud judgement. 

Your views don’t even have to be the same. It’s okay to have differences – that’s the whole reason we have a democracy. The more you understand and communicate with each other from day one, the less conflict there will be later down the line.

No matter what, honesty is key. It’s about introspection. If you’re feeling compelled to lie about your beliefs, you might want to ask why. Does your stance on the rights of others out your partner at risk? Would your political opinion make your partner more vulnerable in society? If the answers yes – you might want to rethink.

Some people may overlook their political differences. But for others, following certain parties is unforgivable and could trigger the demise of the relationship. Ultimately, the party you choose reflects your values as a human being. And for many, political views are grounded in a person’s basic morals. If you disagree with someone politically – how can you expect to have a constructive relationship if you live by such different principles?

But disagreeing does not mean that you shouldn’t respect. In a world so divided, the least we can do is attempt to foster an environment in which values can be shared and understood – even if they don’t align. It’s not just about being tolerant and kind, but about having a genuine interest in hearing different perspectives about the same issues. 

Perhaps what I’m trying to say is that, no matter your values or views, love can flourish – provided you’re honest. Political catfishing underlines the somewhat scary spectrum of opinions that graze the dating scene, but is an equally powerful reminder that perspective really does matter. So, let’s be honest with one another.

And who knows, maybe a second date at a swanky restaurant will be on the cards.

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